When someone tells a parent, friend, or co-worker about their struggle with depression or suicidal thoughts, that is a sure sign of tough times. This is the time for those who care about such individuals to step up and be first responders- to provide emotional support, understanding and guidance, even though tackling difficult conversations like these can seem daunting. But it is important to create a safe and supportive environment which encourages the person to open up more and at the same time, gradually guide them to medical treatment.
Listen without judgment
One of the most powerful ways to help someone dealing with depression or suicidal thoughts is to listen in times of stress. Individuals often need a place where they can speak openly without fear of judgment or asking for advice. It is important to allow them to freely express their pain, emotions, and thoughts. One should avoid dismissing or insulting their feelings in any way because doing so may further alienate them. Messages like “I’m here for you and I want to understand what you’re going through” can make a huge difference in making them feel supported. This type of active listening gives them a sense of security and trustworthiness.
Provides reassurance and emotional validation
When people talk about their struggles, reassuring and validating their feelings is very important instead of jumping in and proposing a solution. Start acknowledging their feelings and letting them know that what they are experiencing is real. It is very important to remind them that they do not have to face their problems alone. Reassure them that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, and courageous actions can bring great comfort.
Creating a non-threatening conversation about professional help
It is important to approach professional intervention with care and sensitivity. Instead of pressurising to seek treatment or medication right away, start the conversation gently about the benefits of professional help. For example, one might say, “Talking to a professional may provide a different perspective or better tools to manage these feelings.” The aim is to offer therapy or counseling in a safe and positive way instead of looking at it as a sign of failure or inadequacy. Standardize therapy by recognizing that many people at different stages of life seek help and it can be an empowering and transformative step in taking control of ones own mental health again. The idea is to promote conversation, not confrontation. Open-ended questions such as “How do you think talking to a therapist can help?” or “What would make you feel more comfortable regarding reaching out for help?” allows people to think on their own terms. This approach ensures that the conversation remains gentle, supportive and patient, allowing individuals to consider medical of therapeutic help as a suitable option without feeling restricted or overwhelmed.
Being consistent with support
The support does not end after the first conversation, stability is key to providing confidence and supporting a person on their journey to healing. Checking in with them regularly even if they don’t work towards getting help right away will in itself make them feel heard and understood, as providing constant encouragement and reminding them that you’re always available can create a sense of stability and security and reduce feelings of loneliness. This is especially true during times when they feel lost or overwhelmed and in times of emotional distress, a loved one’s steadfast support can act as a lifeline. Providing hope when everything seems hopeless can be done by those to whom they first confess about their state of mind, they could be parents, friends, colleagues, or teachers. They have a unique opportunity to be the first point of contact for those struggling with depression or suicidal thoughts- by listening without judgment and validate their feelings and direct them to professional treatment with compassion and care.
It is important to remember that these individuals are not alone in their struggle and that we are there as their supporters. Offering support is not a sign of weakness just like asking for help is not a sign of failure. In these fragile times, we must rise up and show compassion, patience, and unwavering encouragement. Depression and suicidal thoughts aren’t the only things we face and by being by their side and providing compassion we will be able to bridge the gap between hopelessness and hope, at the same time being able to help our loved ones take the first steps towards recovery. Never underestimate the power of support, sometimes this is what saves lives.